How to really avoid/stop rape

I noticed a lot of people joining the Facebook group "tips for all women... please join... and pass on." I have some tips of my own for avoiding rape and assault.

Top two places sexual assault occurs, YOU could be AT RISK, AVOID THESE TWO PLACES:

1) Indoors
2) Outdoors

Other tips for avoiding rape:

- be male (most rape victims are female)
- if you can't avoid being female, at least don't form a romantic relationship with a man (many female rape victims are raped by their intimate partners)
- don't ever smile at or say hello to a man (he might think you want him to rape you, and who would question him, since you did after all smile and say hi)
- as well as not smiling and saying hello to men, also don't ignore them (they might get mad and attack you)
- Do not form relationships with other human beings. 75 percent of rapists know their victims. Don't have any fathers, step-fathers, uncles, brothers, clergy members, and neighbours.
- wear camouflage appropriate to whatever setting you're in (so rapists don't notice you)
- or at least cover yourself entirely (because if a rapist sees any part of your sexxay body he will be justified in appropriating it as his own)
- in addition to covering yourself entirely, also make sure that you don't cover yourself entirely because that too draws attention to yourself
- avoid parking lots, streets, especially the street you live on, and being in your own home
- live in a reinforced bunker on the side of a mountain with barred windows and several deadbolts on the door (sometimes rapists break into random houses to rape)
- shoot on sight anyone who approaches your property (rapists look just like everyone else)


In all honesty, the tips in the group (and in the e-mail forward it originated from) are, for the most part, BUNK. Please read the following articles from Snopes for details:
http://www.snopes.com/crime/prevent/ninetips.asp
http://www.snopes.com/inboxer/outrage/rape.htm

Furthermore, these tips are awful because they place all responsibility for safety and security on women. How do you think a woman who has been sexually assaulted might feel if she reads all these things she didn't do and feels responsible? This is something called BLAMING THE VICTIM. It is inappropriate and wrong. Rape is NEVER the victim's fault. The blame should be placed where it belongs - on the shoulders of the men who rape, and on the systemic oppression of women known as the patriarchy. Tips like this only serve to further these kinds of misogynist, victim-blaming attitudes and don't do anything to address the real problem, which is that there are men out there who believe that women's bodies are their public property to do with as they please. Until they wake up and realise that this is not the case, women will always be in some kind of danger.

Here are some real tips to stop rape, for men and women, that you should all pass along:
1) Fight the oppression of women, wherever, whenever, and however you see it.
2) Tell men to stop raping women. If a woman is drunk, don't rape her. If a woman is walking alone at night, don't rape her. If a women is drugged and unconscious, don't rape her. If a woman is wearing a short skirt, don't rape her. If a woman is jogging in a park at 5AM, don't rape her. If a woman looks like your ex-girlfriend you're still hung up on, don't rape her. If a woman is asleep in her bed, don't rape her. If a woman is asleep in your bed, don't rape her. If a woman is doing her laundry, don't rape her. If a woman is in a coma, don't rape her. If a woman changes her mind in the middle of or about a particular activity, don't rape her. If a woman has repeatedly refused a certain activity, don't rape her. If a woman is not yet a woman, but a child, don't rape her. If your girlfriend or wife is not in the mood, don't rape her. If your step-daughter is watching TV, don't rape her.

If you break into a house and find a woman there, don't rape her. If your friend thinks it's okay to rape someone, tell him it's not, and that he's not your friend. If your "friend" tells you he raped someone, report him to the police. If your frat-brother or another guy at the party tells you there's an unconscious woman upstairs and it's your turn, don't rape her, call the police and report him as a rapist.

Tell your sons, god-sons, nephews, grandsons, and sons of friends that it's not okay to rape someone.

Don't just tell your women friends how to be safe and avoid rape. Don't imply that she could have avoided it if she'd only done/not done x, y, or z. Don't imply that it's in any way her fault. Don't let silence imply agreement when someone tells you he "got some" with the drunk girl. Don't perpetuate a culture that tells you that you have no control over or responsibility for your actions. You can too help yourself. Rape is not about sex, it's about control and power, and what kind of power comes from taking advantage of others? No power anyone should ever desire.

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Things learned from SCSU board meetings, #2358:

Don't actually do your job. If you do so, you may get censured. Failure to do your job will result in absolutely nothing of consequence (in a number of different ways).